One of the wisest men I know once wrote me a note that read: "I suspect you, like me, have a confident exterior, but are plauged with inner doubts, like an impostor.. improvising every day, afraid the "real experts" are going to find you out. The thruth is - we are ALL improvising. Embrace improvisation. Usually "experts" have maxed out and have very little capacity for improvisation. If I could choose - consciously - I would choose improvisation" The above paragraph was part of a much longer letter of sorts that was written to me when I made the choice to move to Cleveland with my husband and son to start the next season of our life as a family of three. I understood the letter to be about my professional life and my ability to improvise in my job. While I had always been cool and confident in my work on the surface, just beneath I was constantly kicking and trying to keep myself above water, often looking around a room of people 10, 15, even 2
Dear Mom, It's your birthday. Mother's Day and I'd like to say thank you for a few things. you're pretty For letting me say that my imaginary friend Jake was a real person and pretending not to know when I lied to your face about him cutting my bangs really short when I was 4 years old - yeah, that was me. For letting me change my name to "Maria" in 2nd grade because I thought Hannah was a dumb name (and for basically saying the name you picked for me sucked. ouch) For not telling me that the optometrist knew I was lying when I tried to fake an eye test so I could get glasses like all the cool girls in my class. That one really came back to bite me now that I'm 30 and can't see without my cool glasses or contacts. For letting me be the only girl at my elementary school to try out for co-ed basketball and not being mad when I made it... and then decided I didn't want to do it. For paying for years of piano lessons